Many of us
struggle with the problem of our own shyness.
This problem often keeps us from being a part of
our world. We want to make a visible difference
but we do not do it. In addition to shyness, we
struggle with fears of rejection, low
self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness and being
overly self conscious. All of these factors
keep us from showing up in our world.
We tell
ourselves that if we could just change our weak
points then we could make a difference. If only
we had more money, a college degree, better
looks, more experience, etc..then we could let
the world know about us. Maybe there are only a
couple of areas which could use some changing.
Regardless, we tell ourselves these things and
then we justify reasons why we cannot or do not
have them.
If we continue
to hide, then we are sure to lose out on all the
good things life as to offer. When we do not
take the risk to become more involved we are
denying ourselves the opportunity to grow. This
leaves us feeling afraid, immature, and
mistrusting. The longer we continue this
pattern of avoidance the smaller our world
becomes because we will eventually become
comfortable with fewer and fewer situations.
So whether we
are aware of it or not, we come across
opportunities to grow on a daily basis. In
order to make an impact we have to get started
with what we have. Stop waiting for this, this
and this to happen before we begin. Maybe we
are already visible to some degree. If this is
the case then we have to challenge ourselves to
become even more visible. Only the individual
knows the secret to what keeps them from letting
others know them. What is it that is keeping
you from letting others know you?
By making a
visible statement we are telling others that we
feel good about who we are and we’re not afraid
to let them know us. This challenge will
require courage. Courage comes from when we are
afraid to do something but we do it anyway
because we know it is for our own good. This
new way of presenting ourselves will get easier
with time. People will know us as individuals
with integrity and they will respect us for it.
Just remember,
we grow as individuals when we take risks to
become our best selves. Feelings of great
happiness will come from our efforts because we
will know that we are taking control of our
personal power.
Mark Webb is the
author of How To Be A Great Partner and founder
of Partner Focused Relationships™. Sign up for
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