Rev Up The Romance In Your Life

~ By Mark Webb

 

Life is too short not to be romantic.  Being romantic will add happiness to your days and years to your life.  Romantic people are young at heart and they enjoy a fully mature relationship.  Romantic's have greater confidence, demonstrate greater courage, and they make this a better world to live in.

Here is some romance building advice to make your relationship all it can be:

1.     Becoming romantic is similar to physically working out.   Everybody knows they need to exercise and a lot of people resist it.  Everybody knows working out is good for them but many don't like the hassle of it.  Regardless of how you feel about working out it is a habit that comes with benefits.  These benefits are better health and happiness.  The same benefits are yours when you develop your romantic strength.  I know tough guys in the gym who are lightweights in the love department.  Be strong in both physical and romantic strength.

2.     Don't label yourself or your partner as someone who "just isn't romantic."  You may respond with, "well, it's the truth."  Perhaps it has been but if you ever want to change this you will have to use the old reverse psychology approach.  Label yourself and/or your partner as being "romantic".  Positive reinforcement has a much better chance than a more discouraging label.

3.     Romance is not a chore.  Romance is an opportunity.  It is one of the best gifts life has to offer.  Don't miss out on these blessings.  Don't let your friends pollute your mind with any thoughts to the contrary.

4.     Strive to be romantic 365 days a year.  Who says romance is limited only to Valentine's Day?  I and everybody else will feel sorry for your partner if this is the standard you live by.  Can you imagine how a change in your daily perspective could make your life so much better?  Romantic people have partners who adore them.  Romantic people are happier throughout the week, not just on the weekends.

5.     Be more playful with your partner.  Many men and women give their best self to their career.  They come home from working with nothing but the leftovers of themselves.  The weekend is spent regrouping for the following week.  Sounds like a rat race to me.  Get off this treadmill and allow you and the person you love to have some fun.  Let your playful, goofy side come out and I promise you will actually be more productive in all areas of your life.

6.     Learn from your past mistakes.  If something isn't working in your relationship, spend time evaluating why this is so.  Don't condemn yourself but learn from your errors.   What did you do last Valentine's Day?  Was it a success or a flop?  What could you have done better?  How could you have made your partner feel more special?  How about your partner's birthday?  Your anniversary?  Get the picture?  Always strive to improve your efforts.  Like mentioned in #1 above, exercise your romantic muscles. Push yourself so that you can do more and more.

7.     Utilize your own special talents.  You don't have to reinvent the wheel.  You have abilities that bring you success.  What are they?  Are you good at writing, organizing, creating, cooking or building?  Simply consider how to apply these talents in the romance department.  Since you have these strengths you might as well make the most of them.

8.     Don't use gifts and flowers as a way to apologize.  Presents should express thoughtfulness, not regret.  If you give flowers or presents after you have had an argument or hurt your partner's feelings, you are usually wasting your money.  Apologies should be sincere words and the demonstration of repentant actions.

 

This is your life.  Enjoy it.  Be creative and have fun.  Believe in love and feel the magic that can be yours.  Fall in love every day through the power of romance!