Make Your Partner Feel Special This Valentine's Day

By Mark Webb

          I believe that every man and woman can be the most romantic person in the world.  Being a romantic should be a part of your every day behavior.  But one day stands above the rest.   It’s not that hard to do and the benefits are enormous.

          Let your partner know they are important to you.  Give them your complete attention and make sure you convey the message that they are special to you.  A lot of people won’t say anything if you slight them on Valentine’s Day.  They unfortunately will suffer in silence as they watch other women shrieking with joy as flowers are delivered to the office or when the man in the next office receives a bundle of balloons.  It is a lonely feeling to be neglected on Valentine’s Day.

Here are Some Ideas To Make Valentine’s Day

Special For Your Partner

1.     Plan ahead:  Don’t buy gifts or flowers at the last minute; make dinner reservations now, long lines can kill the date.  Walking to the front of the line will make her feel like a princess.

2.     Either take her out to dinner or cook her meal.  Give her the night off from the kitchen.  Or ladies, if you typically don't cook then go all out and cook his favorite meal.

3.     Instead of dinner by candlelight, serve breakfast by candlelight.

4.     When you tell your partner that you love them, say it with enthusiasm, and from your heart.  Smile.  Show your love for your partner in your eyes.

5.     Make a list of the 10 reasons why you fell in love with them.  Better yet; make a list of 20 reasons why you love him or her even more today.

6.     Always get a card, better yet, make one yourself.  You’ll find that your skills from kindergarten still exist.  Get some glitter, glue and colored paper.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  Remember it’s the thought that counts.

7.     Always wrap your gifts.  Use extra nice wrapping paper and fancy bows.  Remember, you’re trying to make them feel special.

8.     Take your partner to church and say a special prayer for your relationship.  This idea will have a huge impact.

9.     Go on a picnic.

10.   Go for a walk and hold hands.

11.     Read each other poetry.

12.     Sing him a love song.  My wife once sang me Celine Dion's, "Because You Loved Me" and I still have difficulty articulating how deeply her gift moved me.

13.       Spend the day watching romantic movies.

14.        Recreate your first date.

15.      Stay at a hotel’s honeymoon suite.

16.      Carve her initials and yours in a tree.

17.     If you can, take the day off from work.

18.    If you plan to buy her clothing, make sure you know all her sizes.

19.    Arrange for a babysitter.  Most men consider this to be the woman's responsibility but women love it when the man takes the initiative.  This strategy alone will blow her doors off.  Ask family or friends to watch your children.

20.      Look through your wedding album together.  Do you remember how handsome he was or how beautiful she was on your wedding day?  Then tell them and while you're at it, reminisce about that day and how close you felt.  Recommit yourself to your partner in some way: promise you will strive to live up to your wedding vows; to have more fun in the relationship; or to be more spiritually focused as a partner.

 

I encourage you to go for impact.  You want to bring a smile to his face or a tear to her eye.  Do something so out of the ordinary that you surprise even yourself.  As a marriage therapist, I hear so many stories of regret.  Look for a way to create a new beginning for your relationship and then strive to do it again tomorrow.  This life is not a dress rehearsal and tomorrow isn't promised to anyone.  The moments pass way too quickly.  Seize this day, everyday and let your partner know how special they are to you.